I'm SORRY! Now- Just how hard is that...???

“Apology is a lovely perfume; it can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious gift.”

Margaret Lee Runbeck

Now…to the 2nd part of my question from the other day -- which is more humane…to forgive and forget, to ask for forgiveness or simply to forget? Well first there would have to be an admission of wrongdoing, repentance (a change of thought and action to correct a wrong and gain forgiveness from a person who is wronged) a need to be forgiven, and finally humbleness.

Why is it so difficult to apologize?

In reading and article entitled, The Fine Art of a Sincere Apology, posted on The Happyself.com: Personal Transformation for Thinking People, the writer Dayne, gives a very thorough seven page write-up along with comments from readers on the topic of apologizing.

He posits that apologies fall into three major categories: strategic, defensive and forced, neither of which does he consider “heartfelt” which is the nexus of a sincere apology. According to the author, there are three components required for a sincere apology: acknowledgment of the offense, regret over the offense and responsibility for the offense. Hey doesn’t this all sound familiar to my opening paragraph. See I am smarter than the average bear!

Additionally, Dayne provides some very compelling benefits of a sincere apology for both the offender and the offended. There are also some really great comments by readers that I think provide not only good insight and practical application, but also present us with the humanness of the experience. I urge you to click the  weblink above so that you can benefit from a complete read of the article as well as browse this very interesting and potentially life altering information portal. Get yourself HAPPY – it’s the one thing you will ever really have full control over!

Whether or not to accept an apology is an individual’s choice based on a multitude of things notwithstanding the sincerity of the person apologizing. It is my personal belief that the heart was made to forgive and the mind to forget eventually. But what you forget is not the result of the behavior but the anger brought about by the behavior that can and will consume you if you stay planted in it.

I don’t have a need to be angry with Gallon or the BOE, but what I do have is a need for them to GET RIGHT with the COMMUNITY; and I won’t stop until they START or GO!

I much rather get exhausted trying to make a positive difference in this community; that is so much more rewarding! How about you?

Ciao For Now!